MUST READ: Feeling left behind, late & futile despite your efforts? You could be a LATE BLOOMER!

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 A late bloomer is not a failure (though they at some point or the other have probably mislabeled themselves as that), he or she is just someone who needs a little more time than others to figure things out and hit their stride.

I have this friend, we’re the same age (a number in the early thirties….) same month even.

At 22 she spoke so convincingly about her passion and the direction she was headed in life, at 26 she was working with a multinational, earning the higher six figures a month.. few years ago at 29, she resigned her job and founded her own company, doing big things internationally… she shows no signs of slowing down, she is driven and passionate!

I have another friend, same age too. She always knew she was going to be a doctor. She became a medical doctor in her early 20’s now with almost 10 years of experience behind her, she’s a specialist consultant surgeon. I am so proud of her.

Then there’s me…. I slept through my undergraduate days, doing just enough to make the passing grade. The deeper I went into my course of study the more uninterested I became. I finished school, went through the motions, got a job… you know, the regular stuff.

I am not lazy or unmotivated, far from it… I know there is great potential deep inside of me and I am committed to find it.. The problem is, I am still not absolutely sure I know how best to channel and express this potential. To express it in primary school lingo, “I am not sure what I want to be in future”.

I have tried my hands at buying and selling, I quickly discovered I don’t have the ‘Iyaloja’ temperament so I packed it up. I’ve enrolled in an MBA, but I am still not satisfied that this is what I need to come into my own. I’ve worked in Marketing, Admin, HR… not sure which I prefer so I can specialize. With 40 not too far away, I am only just settling into my own skin. 

Can you relate? Are you still struggling with your finding and walking in your purpose at a time when your contemporaries seem to have it all figured out.?

Yes? You are not alone… there’s a whole of us out there. Our association has a name… ‘The Late Bloomers’. Welcome. Sit right next to me.

A late bloomer is a person whose talents or capabilities are not fully developed and expressed till later in life than usual or later than expected. I didn’t make this up, google knows us! Lol.

A late bloomer is not a failure (though they at some point or the other have probably mislabeled themselves as that), he or she is just someone who needs a little more time than others to figure things out and hit their stride.

Thankfully, you can be a late bloomer in one area, maybe education/career (you are 40, just got into law school) and perfectly on course in another area, say socially (You’ve been married 17 years and your youngest child is 15). Or you are 37, heading a large department in a career that you love but aren’t yet at that point where you feel ‘ripe’ for marriage. You may be a social late bloomer.

So, are you a late bloomer? I hope to send some validation and encouragement your way with this post. You are not ‘slow’, you are not a failure. Cheer on the early bloomers but know that they aren’t better than you. If we all arrived at the same time, the parking lot will be too crowded. Your morning starts when darkness lifts and the light dawns… 

At the time of this post, it’s only 7:00am in some parts of the US, it’s 12:00 noon in Nigeria, yet it’s already 8:00pm in Japan! Same day o!

Is the US slow? Or is Japan too fast?

Peace.


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Source: Olajumoke Bolu-Kujero

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